top of page

Living with mental health disorders such as PTSD can make coping with stress especially challenging. Stress responses in these conditions are often heightened, with the body remaining on “high alert” far longer than normal. This constant state of tension can lead to chronic stress, which negatively affects the body—contributing to high blood pressure, weakened immune function, headaches, digestive issues, and an increased risk for heart disease.

Effective stress management is essential for protecting both mental and physical health. Practices like deep breathing, grounding exercises, and mindfulness can calm the nervous system. Physical activity, including walking, yoga, and especially hot yoga, helps release endorphins that counteract stress hormones. The heat in hot yoga promotes muscle relaxation, increases circulation, and encourages detoxification through sweat, while the focused breathing and movements help quiet intrusive thoughts.

Spending time alone in reflection—or in the comforting presence of a pet—can also lower stress levels. Pets offer unconditional love and emotional grounding, while solo time allows you to reconnect with yourself without outside demands.

For those with PTSD, creating a sense of safety through routines, supportive connections, and professional therapy can help. Chronic stress impacts the whole body, but with the right mix of coping strategies, including movement, self-care, and connection, you can reduce its toll and improve your quality of life.

Pets offer unconditional love and emotional grounding, while solo time allows you to reconnect with yourself without outside demands.
Pets offer unconditional love and emotional grounding, while solo time allows you to reconnect with yourself without outside demands.

She Wasn’t Ready: My Truth and Why I’m Telling It Now 

I wasn’t ready.  Not for the hands that touched me before I even knew what safety was.  Not for the silence in rooms where screams should’ve lived.  Not for the grown-up decisions I had to make as a teenager, or for the lies I had to tell myself just to survive. 

I wasn’t ready to be a mother to my siblings at 18.  I wasn’t ready to learn about the world through abuse, abandonment, and manipulation.  And I definitely wasn’t ready for the moment when a woman—who knew my mother—put me on the phones of her escort service and taught me about a life that I should have never been part of.  

At 22, I married a man I thought would love me. Instead, I became a wife, a stepmother, and a caretaker. He worked multiple jobs over the years, and not at the same time.He controlled me (at first). I gave him everything I had while still trying to carry the weight of the trauma I’d never had time to face. 

But eventually, I broke the silence. 

I spoke up about my abuse. I told my truth.  I even stood face-to-face with the governor of my state and asked him why he supported abusers instead of survivors. I shook while I spoke. But I didn’t back down. 

Since my divorce 9 years ago, something in me has shifted. 

I’ve started healing. 

I’ve started meditating, healing my lil soul and honoring my inner child.  I’ve become a spiritual little lady—gentle with myself, intentional with my energy, and finally learning to put peace first. I’m not perfect. I still have scars. But I am no longer ashamed of them. 

So why am I telling my story now? 

Because I know I’m not the only one who wasn’t ready.  Because someone out there is still stuck in the silence I fought so hard to escape.  Because if my voice can shake loose even one woman’s shame, it’s worth it. 

She Wasn’t Ready is a blog about survival, yes—but it’s also about becoming. About returning to yourself. About finding your way home after the world tried to destroy you. 

I’m here now.  Still healing. Still rising.  And I’m finally ready to tell my truth. 

Welcome to my story

I just returned last week from a vacation to Lake Michigan with a great friend, spending two days on the beach, offered a unique and powerful boost to my mental health. The combination of natural beauty, social connection, physical activity, and relaxation created an experience that



 profoundly impacted my well-being. Here's how this type of getaway was incredibly beneficial for my mental health:

Natural Beauty and Tranquility

Lake Michigan's stunning natural scenery provides an immediate sense of calm and tranquility. The vast expanse of water, the gentle sound of waves, and the picturesque sunsets create a soothing environment that helps reduce stress and anxiety. Being in nature has been shown to lower cortisol levels, the body's primary stress hormone, which promotes a sense of peace and relaxation. The beach, with its soft sand and cool waters, becomes a sanctuary where worries seem to fade away.

Social Connection and Emotional Support

Spending time with a great friend enhanced the emotional benefits of the trip. Social connections are crucial for mental health, offering a sense of belonging, reducing feelings of loneliness, and providing emotional support. Engaging in meaningful conversations, sharing laughs, and creating memories together strengthen the bond of our friendship. This companionship can be especially therapeutic, as it provides an outlet to express feelings and share experiences in a safe and supportive environment.

Physical Activity and Its Benefits

A beach vacation naturally encourages physical activity, which is beneficial for mental health. Whether it's swimming, running on the beach, or simply walking along the shore searching for sea glass, physical activity releases endorphins, the body's natural mood lifters. Exercise also increases the production of serotonin, a neurotransmitter that helps regulate mood, sleep, and appetite. The physical exertion, combined with the outdoor setting, can significantly reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.

The Power of Sunlight

Exposure to sunlight on the beach is another key factor in enhancing mental health. They say that sunlight increases the production of vitamin D, which is linked to your improved mood and cognitive function. It also helps regulate the body’s internal clock, leaving myself with better sleep patterns. Good quality sleep is crucial for mental health, as it allows the brain to rest and rejuvenate. Additionally, sunlight stimulates the production of serotonin, contributing to a happier and more relaxed state of mind.

Mindfulness and Present-Moment Awareness

The beach environment naturally encouraged mindfulness and present-moment awareness. The rhythmic sound of the waves, the feel of the sand beneath my feets, and the sight of the endless horizon all drew me into the present moment. I read somewhere that practicing mindfulness has been shown to reduce stress, improve the regulation of emotions, and enhance overall well-being and being truly fully present allows you to let go of past regrets and future worries, because instead I am focusing on the beauty and serenity of the current experience.

Escaping Routine and Refreshing the Mind

A vacation, even a short one, provides a break from daily routines and responsibilities. This escape is vital for mental health, as it allows the mind to rest and reset. The change of scenery and pace can lead to new perspectives and creative insights. It’s a time to step away from work pressures, household chores, and other stressors, giving your mind a much-needed respite. This break can lead to increased productivity and creativity upon returning to regular life.

The Therapeutic Sound of Waves

The sound of waves crashing on the shore is inherently soothing and has a meditative quality. This natural sound therapy has been proven to help lower blood pressure, reduce stress levels, and promote relaxation. Many people find that the sound of the ocean helps them sleep better and feel more at peace. Listening to the waves can be a form of meditation, helping to clear the mind and focus on the present moment.

Building Positive Memories

Creating positive memories with a friend on a beach vacation can have lasting benefits for mental health. These memories serve as a little baby reservoir of happiness that you can draw upon during stressful times. Reflecting on these experiences can bring on feelings of joy and contentment, providing a mental boost long after the vacation had ended. The shared experiences also grew our over 10-year friendship, creating a deeper sense of connection and support.

Improved Mood and Happiness

Overall, the combination of natural beauty, physical activity, social connection, and relaxation leads to an improved mood and a greater sense of happiness. Studies have shown that vacations can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety, improve mood, and increase overall life satisfaction and I must admit that I did come home with more clarity and in a much better mood. The positive emotions experienced during the vacation can carry over into everyday life, leading to lasting improvements in mental health.

Practical Tips for Maximizing the Mental Health Benefits

To fully reap the mental health benefits of a beach vacation to Lake Michigan, consider the following tips:

1.      Plan Activities: Include a mix of physical activities (like swimming or beach sports) and relaxation (like sunbathing or searching the beach for sea glass).

2.      Stay Hydrated and Use Sunscreen: Protect your skin and stay hydrated to ensure you feel your best.

3.      Practice Mindfulness: Take moments to fully immerse yourself in the sights, sounds, and sensations of the beach.

4.      Limit Screen Time: Disconnect from technology to fully engage with your surroundings and your friend.

5.      Take Photos: Capture memories to look back on and remind yourself of the positive experiences.

In conclusion, a two-day beach vacation to Lake Michigan with a great friend offerd a multifaceted approach to enhancing my mental health. The combination of natural beauty, social connection, physical activity, and relaxation created an environment where stress was reduced, mood was elevated, and my overall well-being is significantly improved. This experience underscores the importance of taking time to connect with nature and loved ones, providing lasting benefits that extend far beyond the vacation itself.

 

JOIN MY MAILING LIST

Thanks for joining!

© 2021 by She Wasn't Ready. All rights reserved.

  • TikTok
  • Facebook
bottom of page